You Carry Yourself

What you carry, will eventually carry you.

In moments of uncertainty there is one thing you can be sure aboout, no one is coming to save you. So how, in the midst of your lowest, do you deal with that?

Deal with yourself.

Seven months into the year and amongst the chaos of life, I opened my journal to reflect on the year. To be honest, this was a grounding ritual to get back onto terms with myself — life has the tendency to pull you from yourself. To my not-so-surprised self, I had defaulted one goal. One of my most important goals — a personal goal. And boy was I down, for a couple of days. I spiralled out of my best mental state and it did not help that life itself did not stop — yes, Life does not stop for you.

Giving up is failing yourself and failure is accepting defeat before it's announced. With 3 months left, modules failed due to poor time management it would seem impossible to get a Dean’s pass right? Right.
There is no paradox here, sorry. You cannot take a goal set for 12 months and rebuild in 3 months.

In my time of being bitter and angry of course I searched for something to blame, that being everything else but myself.

It could have been the business.

It could have been staff.

It could have been family.

It could have been relationships.

Anything can fill the space when you want it to, however what does not belong will never belong. Being in denial of the essential truth not only prolongs your suffering but keeps you in a recursive cycle of redundant life lessons. The different layers of consciousness — global consciousness and individual consciousness demands for us to constantly be aware of the dimensions in which we operate hence identifying cycles to break out of is never an easy task. Setting of your goals isn’t limited to yourself, there are generational curses to break and blessings to acquire.

So I wrote the below points to assist others creating a template in which you carry yourself.

1. Goals and Aspirations

You’re bound to feel lost when there is no clear direction or intention before you. Goal setting is one of the most significant and uncomfortable processes one can go through; the task of evaluating your journey, where you are and hope to go is daunting. If the task of self-awareness were easy and comfortable probably navigating through your aspirations would be easy.

I would have not been able to evaluate my performance and progress this year without know where I am going or doing. Being able to identify that I want a merit pass, I intentionally did not set a distinction pass a goal, assisted me in structuring my short-term goals. Your short term goal may be something different — not necessarily getting specific final mark, but your goal influences and shapes your intention for a certain period.

With intention you are able to identify your distractions easily and distractions dont always root from external forces, the concept of self-sabotage proves this.

2. Discipline feeds consistency

Discipline is self love

Identifying and setting your goals gives you a direction and most importantly influences activities you participate in, environments you frequent and people you keep around you. Discipline reminds you why you started instead of needing motivation — which makes no sense without direction. Where are you motivated to go?

Your discipline will carry you when your emotions and feelings can’t. Thats the real difference between discipline and motivation.

Consistency is the strength in you that you will have left when fear and anxiety has left you paralysed. Consistency builds the natural urge for you to do something. See when you are consistent in what you do then it becomes second nature, like driving. That second nature will be what goes on when you are amidst chaos in your life. Gym-heads illustrate this concept well. Most body builders start off depressed and use gym as an escape. Once they have adopted their second nature of gym life it carries them — gym and exercise no longer depends on how they're feeling, but gym determines how they feel.

I am not commanding everyone to take gym up, but what are you taking up?

3. Elevation

To pull yourself upwards you need to be above your current state. The magic of elevation is not an input but an output state. An output determined by your commitment and consistency to yourself. Your true self.

Your true self: Living purposefully.

Not you: Stressful, distracted living.

My failure — literally, the drastic opposite happened, helped me identify my distractions. By identifying the things that hold you back, whilst having a vision for where you going makes the task of unshackling and continuing easier. The state of elevation is transforming from who you were to being who you are now, making way for your true inner self to be. Elevation is leaving the inferior self to let the superior self live fully and purposefully. Your goals and discipline work for your superior self to exist freely. Once you have strengthened your superior self, you will carry yourself to your own victory. As Christ carried his cross to his ultimate mission.

Carry Yourself

At your best, model your life through goals and aspirations to establish functioning tools for when you aren’t your best. The template you create for yourself during your best will be the same template to carry you through when you can no longer carry yourself.

Make sure your template is personal to you.

Go Live!